I loved being pregnant. It was one of the best things I’ve experienced in my life. Was it easy? Absolutely not. I actually had quite a few issues during my pregnancy, all of which were worth it when I met my little girl. I loved being pregnant though, I loved showing off my belly, feeling my daughter kick all night long, imagining what she would look like and starting at monograms. It was a wonderful time even with all the stress, pain, lack of sleep, etc.
And even though I enjoyed it, I also couldn’t wait for it to be over, I was so ready to meet her, 9 months seemed like forever, but it also flew by at the same time. There are definitely some things that I wish I had known during my pregnancy that I know now. If I could go back in time and give myself a list of things to keep in mind this is what it would be..
1// Enjoy every second. For different reasons. My main reason is because as exciting as it is to finally meet your little miracle, it will eventually hit you that you two are no longer connected in the way that you were during your pregnancy. During that time she was with me everywhere I went, and as soon as I had her she was sent off to the NICU while I recovered from surgery, immediately I hated being away from her. It took getting used to, to go somewhere and not be in the same place as my baby. And when I went back to work, oh man, not easy.
2// Be selfish while you still can. I love being a mom. Hands down, it’s something I always knew I wanted to do, and it’s even better than I imagined. But, everything really does change. There’s this new little person whose needs come before every single one of yours. Shower?? What’s that? Makeup? Shampoo? Who has the time. Especially at first. But I happily give my all to my daughter. But I would be lying if I said I don’t think back on those days when I could take a nap as soon as I got home from work, make plans without having to figure out who will watch the baby, spend hours painting my nails, washing and styling my hair, and just trying out a new makeup look! So I’m definitely not wanting to go back to that, but I would definitely go back in time and remind myself to enjoy it!
3// Motherhood is terrifying. Being pregnant is wonderful in the sense that your baby is always with you safe and sound in your belly, getting all the nutrients it needs and growing like a little weed. But then they come into the world and its scary! You have to get to know them, find out what they like and don’t like, figure out whether or not that sound she is making means something or not. Sleep?? Yeah right, it took me a while to sleep peacefully at night with all the scary safe sleep guidelines. They just seem so fragile at first, and you just never really stop worrying about them. Just remember no number of pregnancy/baby books can prepare you for the change you are about to experience, but it definitely helps to have different ideas of things you can encounter. Take any advice given to you and remember it, you’ll be surprised what advice will come in handy one day.
4// You will change, but in a great way. As I mentioned before, I can no longer be the selfish girl I once was. I put my daughter first in all things. And I think it is genuinely turning me into a better person. I appreciate the little things in life now, I want to document everything, I am constantly thinking about the well being of my family before my own. I want to spend my money on her and her life rather than the newest makeup products at Sephora. Your priorities and your mindset are permanently changed for the better when you become a mom, and I am so grateful for it!
5// You’ll forget all the bad stuff and only remember the good. Pregnancy can be really tough for some women. I personally had my own share of difficulties like severe carpel tunnel, really bad food aversions, the worst acne I’ve ever had in my life, and I had the sweetest little party going on in my belly every single night so sleep was tough. After pregnancy I had more issues, more acne and horrifying bells palsy that I didn’t even know existed until it affected me. And I know women who have had way worse issues. But I don’t think anyone would ever say that it all isn’t absolutely worth it. So if I could go back and give myself any advice while I was pregnant it would be that there is a light at the end of this tunnel, the pain will go away, you will sleep again, and once you meet your daughter you’ll forget about all the hard times during your pregnancy and instead think things like “its so cute to see you kicking your feet, just like you did in mommy’s belly”, or “oh no, hiccups? You got them all the time in my belly too and it always made mommy laugh!”. If anything you’ll just miss being able to carry her everywhere and know that she is safe!
Other things I would tell myself include:
+// you don’t have to buy everything, babies can be a lot more simpler than you realize.
+// she will be happy no matter what you do or don’t get done before she arrives.
+// buy diapers and wipes as much as you can before she gets here, STOCK UP.
+// and last, everything isn’t always going to go the way you want them to, like for me breastfeeding was not something I was able to stick to due to low supply, but I had it set in my mind that that was what we were going to do, no formula. So imagine my surprise when it didn’t work out that way. I was pretty devastated, but I just had to remind myself that I have a healthy, beautiful baby girl who is so loved and adored, she’s will still grow up to be an amazing person as a formula fed baby!
Pregnancy is different for everyone, and who knows, my next pregnancy may be a completely different experience for me as well, but after having my first child, and experiencing meeting her for the first time, I can’t wait to do it again, and I’ll be sure to keep this list in mind.