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So I was recently prompted to think about this phrase, from a post on Pinterest. And to really consider if I am living happily ever after…

That didn’t take me very long to consider. Definitely not. But, what would get me to the point of living happily every after? This is an interesting question, the answers to which have changed so much as I have gotten older.

When I was younger all I thought I needed was money, or a relationship. The money aspect, I have to admit has not changed, I am a married college student, so to say money is tight is an understatement. But this is something that I know will eventually get better, that’s why I’m in school right? Right!

But what else? Well, I thought about it, and in addition to more financial stability, these are the things or changes in my life that I think would get me closer to my happily ever after…


  • Strong Relationship with God
    • I am a spiritual person, and my relationship with God is NOWHERE near where it should be, this is something I desperately want to improve, and I know this alone will help me to reach every other goal I have.


  • Move, and settle down somewhere
    • I can’t wait for us to move somewhere that we love, which is not the case for our current location, buy a house, and settle down. I love to travel and see the world, but it is nice to have a place to come home to. I have been moving around since I was a kid, my parents were military, so I am so ready for this point in my life.
      I also just want to throw out that I am super excited to have children. One of the things I always knew I wanted in life was to be a wife and a mom. This will come when the time is right! But I am excited for it to get here.


  • Live near family
    • My husband and I live alone in Arizona right now, with no family members near us. I miss being able to see family on a regular basis, so I hope that when we do settle down somewhere, that we are able to be near family.


  • Do something I love for a living (And be successful)
    • I have different ideas of what this means to me. I know that if I could have my way, I would be able to make a living from home doing something I love. I hope to be a stay at home mom, but I also want to be able to provide to our home income at the same time. This is something that would be amazing. It seems a little far-fetched right now, but I think it could happen for us. I really want to be able to be home with my children when that time comes


  • Have a tight circle of friends
    • Friends are hard to come by, especially as an adult. I don’t need a million friends; I just want that tight group that I can always depend on, women whom I can share everything with. Shows like Sex and the City are kind of what I mean, just not single women in New York, (I wish!). Moving around has helped me to make friends, but they are all over the place, so I don’t have that solid group that I want.


  • Be able to be creative on a regular basis
    • Even if I don’t get my dream of being a self employed stay at home mom, I hope that I am still able to have time to stick to my hobbies. I love being creative and trying new things, and I hope that in the future I will have time for this part of my life, which I love!

I think these are all pretty reasonable things. This is a pretty good idea of what I feel will help me reach that “Happily Ever After”. Please, don’t get me wrong, I love my life and I am happy to be where I am. Two years ago all I could think about was getting married, now that I am married I am just focusing on other dreams. I think life would be quite boring if we are always content with where we are, I will always strive for more! =] So I guess my happily ever after is ever changing. And that’s ok.

Thanks for reading, what changes do you want to make to reach your “Happily Ever After”? Let me know in the comments below!


  • I love this post. It definitely makes you think about what your goals should be. I am in the same boat as far as keeping up with my relationship with God. It is definitely a struggle to do so in a world that is so full of ungodly things.

    I also understand how you feel about being far away from your family. My husband is in the Coast Guard, and we will have to move around quite a bit in the next few years. Our family is from Minnesota, we are currently in Michigan, and we have no idea where we are going to next. It would be so much easier if I could just let it roll and patiently wait to find out where we are going to live. But I’m a nervous Nelly and I have so much stress built up about it!!!

    Anyway. Love your post. 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

    • Hi Megan!
      Thank you so much for your comment! I completely understand where you are coming from with being away from family, my family is all military, which is why i hope one day to FINALLY be near them. If you could choose where you guys end up where would it be? Besides Minnesota I mean. haha

      • I need warm weather more than anything else right now!!! This woman needs sun and fruity cocktails.

        • I hear you! =]
          Well I hope you end up somewhere that you both love!

  • Quana

    I totally agree especially about gaining good, honest friends as we get older

    • Yes, I have found that it get harder not only to find them but keep them! As we get older there are just so many changes we go through, and I think that plays a big part in it.

      Thanks for the comment! =]

  • Great post Desiree!

    I’ve been thinking about “Happily Ever After” and if I’ve made the right choices since high school. Sometimes, I feel that I’ve put my education and future career before everything else that I have overlooked everything else in my life.

    It is really hard to make a good group of friends as an adult. I’m thankful I still keep in contact with Ramsteiners but I wish I had more people around me to have as friends.

    • Hi Porsche! =]
      Yes, it is much harder as an adult. At least you may have overlooked other things in life for your career! Thats a really important journey, I overlooked other areas of my life for a relationship. Dont get me wrong I love Andre, but if I could go back in time, I would have focused on myself a little more, if that makes sense! But I am focusing on me now, and hopefully I will reach all of these goals! But I totally get where you are coming from. =]